Long Distance Relationships

Please note that these articles do not necessarily reflect the views of Christine Bennett and are for general interest only.

Dr. Gregory Guldner, MD, MS in his book Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide, discusses common misconceptions about long distance relationships.

Dr. Guldner draws on his own experience of a ten year long distance relationship as well as research.

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work:

• Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship.
• Do things together whenever you can.
• Consider using Skype video chat calls every day or as often as possible, text messaging, phone calls and email every day.
• Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible.
• Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers.
• Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart.
• Avoid the temptation to be controlling.
• Try challenging each other.
• Talk about your future together.
• Remember: Things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.
• Visit often.
• Avoid jealousy and be trusting.
• Be positive.
• Give them a personal object of yours so in a time of need, when they miss you, they are able to hold on to something that once belonged to you.
• Work towards a balanced relationship between partners.
• Create your own set of relationship standards that both of you have mutually agreed upon.
• Remember that you're still in a relationship.
• Because time together is rare, when you do see each other, take as much advantage as possible of your ability to get intimate with each other.

An excellent resource on long distance relationships - how to make them work is available at WikiHow.