The following topics are suggested for consideration to include in your individual programme of pre-marital counselling to optimize the success of your married life together:
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Identify and understand the patterns in your relationship - develop relationship consciousness
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Identify and understand your family of origin influences and how these may impact on your relationship
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Identify your defense mechanisms and how they lead to a disconnection from your partner
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The role of chemistry
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Learn how being open to vulnerability opens the door to intimacy
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Self-Love - valuing, validating and accepting your self no matter what
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Learn how to keep passion alive in and out of the bedroom - sexuality and sensuality
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The "business" side of marriage, the division of responsibilities, managing money
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Learn about the major challenges to relationship
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The Spiritual path of relationship
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About equality
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Effective communication skills - the art of listening and maintaining safe space to manage conflict
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The art of negotiation for win-win outcomes
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Developing a marriage "contract" - what are your goals, needs, wants, expectations?
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Have you discussed children?
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Develop awareness of your many different "Selves" - (they tend to show up in relationship unexpectedly otherwise)
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Managing difficult emotions - learn how to defuse when emotions start to escalate
